When you’ve been happily married for 55 years, folks will often ask you: what is the secret of being happily married for 55 years? My answer was always quite simple. The secret is there is no secret. Next question.
I never sent my Margaret a Valentine in our 55 years of marriage, nor she, for the most part, me. But she did send me one in 1958, when we were courting. She wrote ‘101 reasons Why I Love You’ on a piece of paper shaped liked a heart. How sweet, I had thought. She later asked me to destroy it, saying that it was just a bit of fun, and that she was being ironic, didn’t-I-know.